A few days ago, I started this slight obsession. I asked people I know on how/what is their ideal partner aka a good woman/good man. So here's MY description:
HE'S/HE/HE'LL - Considers me a PRIORITY not an option cos he is on top of my priority. - Will go above and beyond for me. Someone extra-ordinary who's gonna take my breathe away. - Sensitive to my every needs(physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually) - My family comes first above all else, so he better be family oriented. - Not scared to tell me what he thinks even though it hurts(but he'll say sorry for acting that way and that he's just trying to point a certain way since i'm too darn stubborn to listen and see it that way). For short, he have to be opinionated. He got his own mind, might as well use it. - Gets along with everyone. - Gotta be open-minded cos I try to be open-minded as well. - Protective and somewhat possessive for the right reasons. - Knows how to cook, clean the house, wash the dishes, do laundry(even without a washer, yes i'm talking about hand wash), ironing clothes. cos i know how to do those things and he better know how to do it too. - Extremely patient since I'm very impatient. - Compliments me often. - Hopelessly romantic since I like to be here and there.(like even a single rose or a flower he picked on his way home or my favorite bar of chocolate/candy) - Have to be my rock when I get emotionally over whelmed(which happens every now and then). Basically being the source of my strength. - Mature enough to be immature. - Fight for me cos i'll do the same thing. - Wont judge me base on my past. - Independent. (I dont care if he didnt finish college, as long as he's able to provide) - Optimistic - Dresses decently cos I do want to show him off every now and then and he better knows how to present himself to others. I dont want to be the one dressing him up cos he's no longer a child. - Good hygiene. Like I said, I would like to show him off every now and then. - Loves kids. - Somehow religious cos my parents are. - Respectful. - I love a good debate/fight. but at the end of everything, we'll put our differences aside and makeup. - Involved in making decisions in our relationship. I dont want to always be the one to make it. I want his opinion too. - Wont have a problem with PDA. - My sense of security. - Supports me in anything I plan/do/decide. - Assures me when I'm having doubts.
EDiTED: July 14 - Be my bestfriend. - Surprises me every now and then. - Submissive and aggressive at the right time.
I was online and i saw this guy's status which this all started. To make it short, He mentioned that he wants a good woman. So it came to me, What do guys mean by a good woman? Or How do guys define a GOOD WOMAN?
Girls are also welcome to answer this. And feel free to give me your opinion of a GOOD MAN.
Some people wish upon a star, But I wish upon the moon. Since it glows the brightest at night. I always love the full moon. It's romantic in a way. At the same time, It makes me hopeful.
Subject: A Soulful Relationship by Reverend Ronald McFadden
if you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isn’t really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the ‘i’.
as i was looking at you, i thought how sexy you look. how i wanted you. how peaceful you look. like your eyes are talking to me. the contact of your skin felt so good against mine. i can feel your breathe against me. i can hear a steady rhythm from your heartbeat. how your embrace made me feel secured in your arms. your kisses was warm and soft. it tells me how much you wanted me. your touch drove me insanely crazy. everything felt so right at the moment, till i had to go back to reality.
